Category Archives: Being Courageous

Words Said

We’ve all heard them. What are yours?

What words or phrases do you believe should be banned from describing women leaders?

I am sure for most of us the words are too numerous to count. The ones that stand out to me the most are from the people I thought were my gateways to success.   They were the words spoken to me by managers. Words like “unapproachable.” or “You need to lower your standards.” They stung, but they didn’t deter me from continuing to work towards my goals. If anything, they proved that I needed to work a little harder because being in an environment where I wasn’t lifted up was not to be the end of my journey.

What are the words or phrases for you?

I am sure most of you have heard about the campaign to ban the word “bossy”. If not, Google it. It’s a campaign launched by Sheryl Sandberg to empower girls to lead. According to statistics, 75% of girls are less interested in leadership by the time they reach middle school because they don’t want to be perceived as “bossy”. It’s an interesting campaign, but it is only the start. Where is the campaign to ban the words “Bitch”, “Black Widow”, “Angry” and “Unapproachable” as acceptable words for describing women leaders? Does having been put through the adversity of being called “bossy” as children help us to form a thick skin so it doesn’t affect us as much when we are older?

Look, statistics don’t lie and of all the CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, less than 5% are women1. What is truly stopping women from breaking into the C-Suite? Does being called “bossy” as a little girl really hold that much impact? Or is it the choices that we are forced to make between our careers and our lives? Say what you will about Sarah Mayer (Yahoo), but the fact that she even had to formulate a plan that encompassed how to maneuver her maternity leave while being CEO of Yahoo is a topic that might require some review.

We are a community of like-minded individuals, who may not all be headed to the same destination, but we are all on a journey. So I ask ….

What are the words or phrases you believe should be banned from describing women leaders?

At the J Spot, I can start the conversation, but it takes your thoughts, ideas and love to make it grow.  So, take the risk, leave a comment below where it says “Leave Your Contribution to the Community…” Let us support you on the journey to finding your passion.

  1. http://www.catalyst.org

In other J. Smith & Co news, I will be launching my new website on Monday, May 5th!  Special shout out to Camille Crisp of Triple C Designs for all of her hard work!  Stay tuned for more details as we get closer!

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Today is the day….

We have been walking our journey together for a few months now. With the on-set of Spring and all of the newness that it brings, I thought that I would try something new.  How about you write the blog this time around.  I will even get you started.

“In the spirit of the vernal equinox, today is the day….”

Now you tell us…What is today the day for?

Take the risk, leave your contribution to the blog below where it says “Leave Your Contribution to the Community…”  Let us support you on the journey to finding your passion.

True Courage

Sigh….so it’s been a really long time since my first post to the J Spot.  I wouldn’t be worth my salt as a coach if I didn’t dig deeper to find out what that was all about.  While I haven’t posted since June, that’s not to say that I haven’t logged in or even written things to be posted.  Nonetheless, I just couldn’t move myself to action.  If I were coaching a client, I’d probably ask the question “What’s that all about?”  I know because I’ve been asking myself the same thing for the last 2 months.   At first I wasn’t writing because I couldn’t get the formatting correct.  Then I wasn’t writing because I couldn’t find anyone that I was comfortable with to proofread for me.  Then I felt like I shouldn’t be writing because I had no idea how to blog.  Then finally, just as recently as last week, I couldn’t write because I didn’t have pictures to use when I wrote a post.  The truth of the matter would be that while those may be very real obstacles to overcome, none of that was the real reason that kept me from writing.  The real answer would be that I am scared to death of it!  Scared that no one will want to hear what I have to say.  Scared to open myself up and be vulnerable to those that I know and those that I don’t.  Dare I say it….I am scared that it might be a success!  Isn’t it funny how we can dream about being successful but when the opportunity to get where we want to be presents itself we sometimes secretly sabotage ourselves?  Well for me, that all stops right here.  I may be scared, but I’m going to do it anyway.  So, I’m asking (don’t leave me hanging)….

What is fear secretly sabotaging in your life?

I need your thoughts, ideas and love to make this grow.  So, show your courage, leave a comment below where it says “Leave Your Contribution to the Community…” and let us support you on the journey to finding your passion.